Dance, Performance, Experimentation
Locations and safe spaces are paramount for being comfortable with yourself. The conversations have existed for a long time, but have a newer context with people discussing how to have a safe space on the internet. While the topic tends to focus on discussing topics that are triggering to people, the conversation is similar those around queer dance halls.
People need to feel secure in acting the way they feel most comfortable, especially if it’s against a heteronormative culture. While Judith Butler challenges the idea that gender is performance, and I agree, I do think there’s an importance to discovering spaces where one can feel out the spaces of comfort. Exploring sexuality can often be a hard time, and finding places to discover this helps the way.
A while back, I’ve realized how the internet has affected sexual identity. By having a space, usually anonymous, place at home, people have been able to experiment in new ways. Particularly, using things like Chat Roulette and erotic fan fiction. Chat Roulette allows people to find random people to explore sexuality with and fan fiction allows people to create and explore fantasies with characters they’re already comfortable with. Dance halls were very similar experiences for people.
Much of these topics and examples do not relate to my own gender experience, I do see a connection to my own. Figuring out what a person wants is paramount, and this can take a long time.